Well, I want to thank everyone who commented on my last post. I didn't know what to do, but I know I had to do something.
So I called her (my sister), and I asked her the tough questions and she gave me real answers and I told her I am glad they have an understanding --- but that IF it every gets where she needs someone, I am here.
Her view? He is not abusive, he just has not social skills and says inappropriate things, trying to be funny. She has never felt threatened by him. Okay-- good enough for me. I asked and I let her know.
She asked me for specifics, and I gave them to her. She agreed how I could see things "that" way.
I feel comfortable that she is safe physically. Mentally--- well I have my opinion, but it is just an opinion. I have left the door open. I will continued to do my best to keep our communication open (gee, i even invited her to celebrate my birthday with me, I don't think I ever did that voluntarily!)
So there is your update.
Oh, I have a job interview with a radio station tomorrow--- don't know what they want me to do, but it is an interview. If any of you would like to look at my resume, let me know! (I mean not just for a job, but if you have some experience in looking at resumes, I'm open for suggestions)
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Mouse, my sis has been married for the last 9 or 10 years to a guy that ... well, he's not abusive either, but just doesn't contribute much and needs to grow up and ... she's not happy. But they have a child with Down Syndrome, plus her 2 and his 1. Financially, she doesn't really have any other options but to stay. It makes me very sad. She tries to make their life seem happy to my folks, and even me, until it gets too much, and she'll spill to me, but then a couple of weeks later, things are "fine" again.
I do actually have experience with resumes -- my time is very limited currently, so I wouldn't be able to offer "full services" haha, but I could take a look.
Mouse, I can totally relate to where your sister is. You did the right thing.
I'd be happy to look at your resume. Email it to me.
Good on you, Mouse. Good on you.
And I'd be happy to gander at the resume, too, if you want.
Glad you talked with sis, now i can stop stressing out as much.
Let us know how the interview goes!
There are so many women in mentally/emotionally/verbally abusive relationships and they don't realize the cycle they are in until they are out of it .
Sounds as if she may be in some denial which is very sad because when one is in it, they are very confused.
There are many forms of abuse, even ignoring ones presence is abusive.
Its good that you keep your door of communication open for her.
Good stuff.
You are very good at asking the tough questions, Citymouse. I very much like that about you! You get people to stop and think. Very valuable...but also very rare!
Maybe too late but good luck with the interview
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