I have decided, even just a week after mother's day, that I no longer want to be a mom or a wife and that i just want to run away before I hurt them with my rolling pin.
Yep, my family is totally ungrateful.
Every single one of them.
I give and give
And all that happens is I end up in tears
There are just a few things I expect from my family members
I have been informed, through their actions, that these are unreasonable requests
here is my list this week--- what I have expected of them-- look at what a bitch I am
Brush your teeth
Brush your hair
Wake up on your own -- I'm not a fucking alarm clock
Let me know if you need me to do something more than 5 minutes a head of time
Be honest
Share how you feel
If you think I have asked you to do something that is unfair explain why you feel that way
Be awake when your awake
Be asleep when your asleep
Don't hold shit in-- it only makes thing worse
Pick up after yourself
Do something to improve yourself a little every day, say 20 minutes (read, write, draw, play music)
Respect me the way I respect you
Be an active member of the family and don't let me do all the work/ talking / yelling
Don't whine
Keep your promises-- and if you cant let me know why
Don't try to change me
Say thank you and mean it
Would it hurt you to try and look like you didn't just roll out of bed
So with this in mind, i am planning my escape. Sure, it wont be for long-- but i will wake up one morning, leave a note, change the message on the cell phone, and just take off for the day.
What will I do??? Who knows..... read, go to a museum, picnic in the park but i will do it with the one person who understands how i feel--- me and my journal and the memories of my selfless sainted grandma who did all this and more. I don't ever remember grandma taking off, or crying.
Maybe I'm just not cut out for this motherhood thing-- too bad it took me 14 years to find that out!
unfortunatly, the women who I would like to plan my escape with are all much stronger than I am--- like those who read my blog-- so I don't know if they can relate -- and they all live to far to escape with me :(
The hubby feels all guilty now, and that was not the point-- I need support and help-- not another child to take care of.
OK-- so I'm now going to cook and clean and whatever else this ungrateful bunch won't notice--- but I wont be happy about it.
12 comments:
It's a reasonable list, except that part about being awake when I'm awake. I'm not sure I can do that.
JP-- that is why I love you!!! you see, the being awake doesnt work for you, so you let me know and for you I can take it off the list. You dont have to be awake when you are awake-- you just have to be. Fair enough?
It recently dawned on me that I'll never have a family of my own. Maybe that's not such a bad thing for me...but I hope it gets better for you. You've done pretty well, despite the rough spots.
Allan-- where would you like me to send them??? I can have them on the first bus out of here! Ready made family!!!
Why, of all the outrageous and unreasonable things I have ever heard. Are you out of your mind? Pick up after yourself? That's just crazy talk.
What park are we meeting at? I'll bring wine.
I think your list is fair. It's just how people should treat each other as a family and as a group of people living under the same roof. Just being responsible for themselves and respecting one another.
Nothing wrong with that.
When my son was almost four and still not interested in potty training (easier to occasionally have Mom slap on a dry diaper), I ran away from home for four days. I had to go to a city four hours away for a medical appointment, and I just announced I would not return until Son was potty trained. I bunked with an old friend there, consumed reasonable quantities of marijuana and wine, and did not do anything motherly for about 96 hours straight. When I came home, he was no longer in diapers.
You go girl!
P.S. I'd eliminate a few of the non-essentials from your list of expectations and let the consequences fall where they will. For example, honesty is necessary and something to be expected. So is respect. Picking up your stuff is a safety thing. On the other hand, how they look is their problem, failure to use an alarm clock ditto. Pick your battles carefully.
Oh you're such a harsh mother and then expecting support from the husband. Wow! Women these days!!
Brit sense of humour - get some time for yourself, leave them all to it and see how they manage, if they manage ok come on over and visit me!!!
hey give yourselve a break. It happens to all the female heads of household and your no exception. But the beauty is that we really care even if they don't seem to be. Lose yourselve for the day, then you'll see that they can't get along without you there.
Oh, dear, I have felt this frustration and had a similar meltdown! It is soooo hard, esp. to be home more when you are used to a harder schedule where you just go go and these things fall by the wayside. Everyone will be better in the long run for the wake up call. Take care of yourself.
I don't know...Isn't there some kind of law that moms can't take the day off?
No??...Well shit fire woman!..get the hell outta Dodge for the day!
Just wake me up before you go.
I'm so glad to hear that I am not the only Mother/Wife who has those not so Motherly/Wifely feelings.
And I TOTALLY think we should plan a Girls Only trip some place where we can all pamper ourselves simply by not having to do anything for anyone else.
I vote Key West!
Who's with me? Lorraine? Gina? Neighbor? Brat?
Okay, Mouse - let's hit the road!
-jLow
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