My son leaves on Sunday, Father's Day, for his job.
He will spend all week, every week for the next 8 weeks, as a CIT (counselor in training)
He is sent home Saturday night to do his laundry and expected back early Sunday morning.
We had a huge party for him. Food, friends, fun.
My sister didn't say one word to me the whole party---
When we were growing up, we were poor and people who are poor have a different set of rules than the rest of the world. When things get tough we tend to go back to those rules as a defence mechanism. My role is the savior, my sister's is the martyr. I was laughing about the party--- if it were 20 years ago, I just would have beet the living crap out of her, the police would have been called and someone would be in jail -- that's how are parents and grandparents settled things. That's why we dint have or go to many parties.
My kids only have one set of rules-- Ever since they were little we would tell them "Our rules are Our rules, no matter where we go" I never realized what I was setting my kids up for with that. Now that my son is leaving I hope it was the right thing to teach him.
There are so many sets of rules people play by. So many roles people take on. I want him to be himself, stick to his morals, and grow and have fun.
I know he'll be home on Saturday nights--- but I'm going to miss this kid.
4 comments:
The apple didn't fall far from the tree with your sone - he is so like you.
We had a few rules for our kids - one was that they were not allowed to say the word "bored" - the only punishement for saying it was that Don would give them a job to do - and so they quickly learned to find something to do when they were bored or keep quiet about it.
Hope your son is okay - I have a bitch of a sister also and she is the "saint/ martyr " of the family. Looks a bot like an old moll these days after the plastic surgery failed badly tee hee.
It's not easy letting them go huh.
This is his chance to stretch his wings a little!
Oh,he'll test the boundaries some,but that's what they are supposed to do.
In the end,mom's voice keep him in check.
Awww...he looks so much like you.
I can totally see you at a party 20 years ago, kicking someone's @ss on general principle.
Awww...
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