After this week, I do not think I will ever comment on Facebook again.
I had two faux pas.
In the first, a fellow volunteer posted a t-shirt dosing for our non-profit group and asked " What do you think?" What did I think? Well I thought that the design was very feminine and would exclude people from buying it. I thought it was not brought up in the context of a meeting and that was kind of bold. I thought that it should be a bright color so that when we are at events folks will know we are part of this group. I thought $15 a pop was a lot of money to ask people to spend if it wasn't raising funds for the group. Lastly, I thought new shirts were a great idea, and maybe we needed two or three designs.
So I took all that and I mellowed it into about a 3 sentience thing. I didn't like the shirts but I liked the idea.
You know what happened next. The private message.... EVERYONE HATES MY IDEAS>>WHY DO I POST??? Needless to say I had to explain my self in like 6 private messages and I delete my post.. so no one would be swayed by my thoughts.
I mean isn't that what it comes down to? If you disagree with someone, they are afraid that their "friends" will agree with you and "like" your ideas more than the ones they posted.. Give me a fucking break. Grow the fuck up. Don't ask for an opinion unless you are ready to hear all sides and then be ready to be strong enough to agree to disagree.
The next is very interesting. Someone posted about how great 3 day weekend are and how can we market them. I commented that we should have 4- 10 hour days.. cause we all work 5 - 11 hour days now anyway. We would work less.
Ok, I did not see this one coming. Comment deleted. God forbid I agree and come up with a cleaver comment that might make you look like you have friends with a brain. Yep, dont let the girl who you grew up with and who knows all your secrets comment. God forbid you comment on your daughter's Godmother's Facebook page.
To be honest, the only reason I have a FB page is kids and boyfriends. I revel in both of their doings, although for much different reasons. IE-- kids do volunteer work and Exes piss on themselves in a drunken stupor.
I am done trying to please anyone but me. My only issue is that when I get to this point I realize I hate living in a small-minded, Midwest American town. I want to be back in the city with real thinking people. Do they still exist Please tell me they are out there.
4 comments:
I thought all of the points you made were very valid (never got to see them online though). And I really don't understand why the 2nd comment was deleted, because that is just plain brilliant, and we DO work too many hours in this country and other countries have shorter workweeks and longer vacations and their economies are thriving.
I struggle with keeping the FB as well, it definitely has turned into something that I didn't see coming. I think it can be an excellent communication tool and it keeps me in touch with people I otherwise wouldn't get to talk to, but then there's the drama. Oh, the drama. Ain't nobody got time...
Ahh, good ol' Facebook. First it was the whole how many friends do you have, then it was the same thing as the t-shirt bullshit....only with house décor or recipes or just photos of kids, then it was whatever. FB feels like high school most of the time...cliques and playing favorites. At least when I blog my heart out I feel better. FB is just Fb after all....not life...oh, wait, maybe it is to some. I have a grand-daughter-in-law that spilled her guts about her relationship with my grandson all over FB. Her family crucified him online and when they went back together of course "they" treated him like shit and guess what? They split again.
Right now Facebook is fellow geeks posting about Doctor Who, some old friends, some new friends, some old acquaintances I should never have friended, and my boss. How the hell the last happened I don't know. I just exclude her from my sensitive posts. Not bad, all in all, kinda breezy and casual, for the most part. I have no relatives on there, so no family drama. Now and then something political wings through.
They do exist. I don't expect I could quit FB right now, even though I sometimes want to. I have too many real people, family and friends, who are too widely scattered and I know I wouldn't get with them as easily otherwise. I sometimes think that most of this just owes to the fact that the technology is still relatively new. We have to collectively learn the etiquette for online behavior.
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