Confused? About what?

Just about every month, our exchange student puts on her Facebook status that she is confused. I got to tell you, at this point I have gone beyond irritated and I am just at the give up stage.

I am pretty sure she is "confused" when she talks to her welcome family. They are the ones who decided not to keep her for the full year. They could have, but they chose not to. The ones who -- buy their actions -- seem to lead her on. I know she would rather be there with them. Well girlfriend -- that ship has sailed. They did not and do not want to keep you as their daugher for the full year. I don't really care what they say the reason is they "couldnt". Unless they were leaving the country for 3 months -- they could have taken you. The way I see it they only want the fun times. That is pretty clear. No confusion from what I see, but I would never tell you that. I do not want to hurt your feelings.

Our family has done everything to make it so you are one of us. We have opened our heart and our home. I can only assume it is your culture that prevents you from opening yours to us. You seem like such a sweet girl, so I can not believe you are purposely acting detached from us. We have done nothing but treat you with love and respect as we do our own kids. If you can not open up to us about your confusion, there is nothing I can do to help.

As I mentioned, I use to be irritated about this, now I am just feeling like I need to wait out the year. There is no way I can force her to talk about what is on her mind. If I could just figure out the truth about what is bothering her, bring it up in a positive way and feel confident she would share, I would. However, doing that would cause her to loose face. I would never want to put her in that position.

Let me see-- how can I be kinder about his? Well, I guess I can start buy trying to ask about the differences I see in our cultures/families. Ask her how she feels about those things and if they were what she expected. Maybe that would open her up.